New Puppy Expectations

“It’s not a dog's job to fulfill our expectations. It’s our responsibility as their guardians to help them reach their full potential.”

Realistic Expectations of a New Puppy

This page was written to help families understand that they must have realistic expectations of a new puppy and resist  looking through rose-colored-glasses.  Over the years we have found that some people are looking at adoption a little too one-sided--only focusing on what the puppy will do for them, not realizing the puppy also has needs that must be met, too.   Yes, puppies bring us so much joy, but they do require work, patience and consistency....... and sometimes it is a little stressful!   While most families are ready for this huge responsibility, some families have not raised a puppy and find themselves overwhelmed with this little bundle of fur that has invaded their tranquil life!   We feel it is better to be honest and straight forward about a puppy and it's behavior BEFORE you bring it home to discover it is too much for you.  I have said it once and I will say it again---my first priority is to match the correct family to our puppies, so, for our puppy's sake,  I would much rather do this once!  Believe it or not, we have only had a small handful of families in the past three+ decades that decide a puppy is too much for them after a few days----but even those few times are too many.  I want to ensure every puppy has a forever home when we deliver it.  This is why we  hand deliver or have families pick up their puppy in person, so we can meet face to face and feel confident about the placement.  One transition, one home, one family.  That is my goal and WHY I work so hard to do all the pre-screening and maintaining this informational website.   When I hand over that little baby to it's new owner it is very difficult for me to entrust that little life with someone we don't really know personally.......so we do expect families to have already done their soul searching and research before bringing home their Habibi.  In most situations the transition goes quite well as we work very hard to find the best homes and families.  
We always remind our families that the first few days it is pretty normal for your Habibi to cry,  seem like it doesn't like it's pen or it's litter box, and be a little clingy.  Remember, it is a little baby and away from it's home for the first time--a fish out of water, so to speak, so it needs love and kindness the first few days until it starts to settle in.  Following our Human's Guide to the Dog Galaxy course for new parents is imperative to getting off to a great start!  Learning to speak dog- their language is spatial, using consistent communication and taking time to develop your bond with our Power of Three Rituals.  Relationship first!  We really do feel the first few days it is important not to overwhelm a new puppy with lots of expectations.  It is equally important to "tough it out" through this phase;  be forgiving and understanding of your puppy as this is crucial in establishing your bond.  Don't get frustrated and give up, because the best is yet to come!  One day you will look back at these times and miss those cute little puppy antics.  Enjoy the journey, it goes so fast!  Remember, the mouthing on the hands, accidents on the floor, chewing up your favorite shoes and nipping at your feet will all be a thing of the past before you know it!  AND, following our step by step guide will give you tools to feel confident in the process.  


First let's discuss energy...


All puppies have an abundance of healthy energy.   It is completely normal and to be expected for a puppy to need play time throughout the day, or it will be bored.   Puppies have bursts of energy and then they need to sleep.  The wake sleep cycle is typically one hour of wakefulness for three hours of downtime. They are babies still, so they tire easily.  For families with children, it is important to allow puppy some recovery time alone in its pen or crate to rest.  Our four week program in our Habibi U course spells this out.  The first lessons are Structuring your Day.  FOLLOW THIS!


Parenting Kids and Dogs


Please review with your children the Doggy Body language module in Habibi U, and also print our free resource, Parenting Kids and Dogs (located at the bottom of the page).  Management if key when raising kids and puppies together, and it's our responsibility as adults to advocate for our puppies.  Teach children to respect the puppy and its space, so puppy doesn't become overwhelmed and start snapping out of fear or over stimulation.  Another thing to be aware of is children walking around holding the puppy constantly can make it motion sick. Please give your little Habibi Bear some needed down time amidst all the snuggles! On the other side of the coin, for families wanting the mellow lap dog, keep in mind you have to get through this puppy stage before it is the dog you want it to be.  Do not expect even the mellowest puppy of a litter to just sit around all day at your feet.  This is not realistic at all for ANY puppy, and if you are not able to handle the activity level of a puppy, we recommend rescuing an older dog that has already gone through the puppy stage.  It simply isn't fair for a little puppy to be placed in a home that cannot keep up with it or provide proper exercise.   Even the mellow pups are quite playful and bouncy during play times---it takes some maturity for the pups to outgrow the normal puppy energy.  A small dog will reach that mental maturity around a year old, some larger breeds take two years.    In all litters we see some with more or less energy, but separately, even those little mellow pups have huge bursts of energy.  If they did not, then we would be concerned.  Energy is healthy and NORMAL and demonstrates the puppy is well-socialized and happy.   We have dozens of families over the years that live in apartments and are able to manage their adult Habibi's energy level with daily walks and appropriate toys indoors.  On the other side of the coin, our Habibi's are perfect for active families with children and lots of activity.  Our puppy assessment will help me match the right puppy to YOUR situation.  We are focused on placement by temperament first above all else.  If anyone tells you all puppies adapt and it doesn't really matter, they do not understand puppy temperament and are not going to do right by their puppies.  They all are very different and we are puppy-centric at Habibi Bears.  We place for the puppy and honor it as the individual wonderful being that it is!

Chewing and nipping are another big puppy behavior...


Keep in mind, they are definitely NOT trying to be aggressive or mean, they are just being puppies.  In our Human's Guide to the Dog Galaxy course, we share the three biting phases, that are normal and to be expected- and we even  help you get through this with some clever management protocols, AND we created flow charts to help you understand how to manage these phases!  This program is deep dive into puppy rearing!  Puppies learn through mouthing everything, and it isn't always as simple as just give them something to chew on.  There are actual biological developmental phases happening, and with each one there are techniques to assist you in managing them.   Always remember, puppies do not understand that they are hurting you unless you communicate this appropriately.  

 

Housebreaking puppies is not a simple task...


in our Human's Guide to the Dog Galaxy Course, we provide a detailed training schedule to all of our families, and when followed, you can learn your puppy's unique algorithm and train them to go potty outside with a systematic approach that works!  Consistency is key, and using the trackers to learn your puppy's schedule is important.  Our protocol helps you understand this process through the puppy's eyes, and you will feel confident knowing you are setting your puppy and your family up for success!

Puppy crying and alone time management is another big concern for new families...


While most standard advice will tell you to simply let the puppy cry it out... at Habibi Bears we are going to guide you to help your puppy in a compassionate way.  Learning to be alone and loving it is a HUGE skill to teach your puppy, and much like sleep training your child, we are going to follow a process here as well.  We never know which pup will be the cryer when they leave our care, but we do find that the families that tend to have longer lasting issues with crying are the ones who choose to  enable  the puppy  instead of empowering it to overcome stress.  In Pup Start, we have worked patiently and lovingly to encourage them to overcome.. it doesn't take much to undo all that work and see setbacks if the schedule isn't followed.  How do you help you puppy thrive?  By starting with a predictable schedule, and learning to speak their language.  It's much like bringing a new baby home at first, you have to get to know each other, learn the pup's cries.  Eventually you will know when its crying to get attention or if it really has to go potty.   We find that the initial week can be trying in many regards, but each day gets easier, with our protocols.  In the Human's Guide to the Dog Galaxy course, we have also created flow charts that you can follow along as you slowly increase puppy's alone time success, and length of time in the crate.  It's a beautiful puppy-led process.  Always honoring the puppy first! 
The first  week we recommend putting the pup's crate beside your bed so you can comfort it.  In the wild, when a dog is separated from the pack, it will cry out to guide the pack to them.  So it makes sense that instinct will set in, and puppy will cry when he finds himself alone for the first time in his new home!   



Relationship vs Training

Our Habibi Method is  a relationship based approach that ensures you develop your bond FIRST before introducing  all the tricks.  Why you may ask?  Simply because a dog who TRUSTS you first will naturally enjoy working with you.  But if you put the cart before the horse, most families find they have less than stellar results.  Our process takes a spirit/mind/body approach to our relationships with our beautiful canine companions and we invite you to join the movement of elevating the way we are in relationship with these precious little heart healers!

I am in awe of dogs and the gift they offer us as our conscious companions. May you see and appreciate the magic inherent to your relationship with your dog.
-Julie
 

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